I have a 10 year old that has a different kind of brain than my 2 other children. The kind that would have been more useful some 1000 years ago. He is a warrior. He is fast and loud and larger than life sometimes. His emotional development is unusual and the only people he can learn from, trust and respect are people he is emotionally connected to. So he struggles with adults that judge him and he gives them reasons to judge him even more!
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| Warriors are rarely photographed in focus! |
It´s been an amazing journey to try to understand him, find ways to connect better with him and help him understand that he is not the center of the universe (he is still not convinced!). His emotions are ALL really BIG and he used to pass out from anger when he was a toddler. He has never been violent but he is very defensive and I can see why children like him might grow up to be violent adults. He is always alerted and in defense in public. He sees most adults as enemies that are out to get him.
Children like him suffer more than other children. Because they look like warriors and get treated like ones but they are more sensitive than you can even imagine. And they brake easily. They just hide it really well.
I have found that the only things that work for him are love, trust and a lot of RESPONSIBILITY. He is after all a warrior. He is blessed with the fact that we live in Iceland so he gets to travel the city on the bus with friends or alone, he walks his little sister to school and he pretty much runs his own life during the summer. And it works because he is different for a reason. He lives on adventures and he can handle them
because he is fearless and hopeful and ready. Yes he has always been
ready!
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He has abilities beyond his years - and some are out of reach for most people but he thrives and grows when he gets a chance to lose himself in them. I think that is how you light "ADHD" children up with happiness. You trust them and believe in them and show them their superpower! No one else will and our current social structure won't embrace them nor encourage their amazingness.
I just wanted to write this in case you have a warrior or know one that might be suffering. They are the people that either change the world or populate prisons. All depending on how they are nurtured
Hulda
A beautiful truth from an amazing Mummy.. x
ReplyDeleteBeautifully written and great insight in such a few paragraphs. One of my sister's sufferers with severe mental disabilities but when she is left to flourish in an environment where she feels safe and loved she comes out of her shell and does some of the of the most amazing things. When she doesn't feel safe her defence mechanisms come out to play and she appears quite violent so some people are very weary of her. Luckily she has a family who nurture her and appreciate her. Thank you for your share and I wish you peace in your perseverance.
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